Rule EIGHT: Accept Yourself/ Build Self Esteem
When you accept yourself the world accept you.
A swollen head is like being obese; it shows how sick you are.
Oftentimes nothing profits more than self-esteem, grounded on what is just and right. –Milton-
We are all born unique; no two individuals are alike. Honoring and respecting this esteem is how we look at ourselves, how comfortable we are within. It is our self-concept, our personal perception in our mind’s inner eye. It is the grading we give ourselves; it is the confidence we have in our abilities; it is our opinion of self and our individuality. How comfortable we are with ourselves has a direct bearing on our performance in every area of our lives.
Having high self-esteem is not only desirable but also necessary for achieving success and being happy. No one can feel successful and happy unless he has a healthy respect for self, and no one can achieve meaningful success unless he has confidence in his capabilities. If we do not have high self-esteem we will not be able to respect our work and ourselves.
“Behind everyone who behaves as if he were superior to others, we can suspect a feeling of inferiority, which calls for a very special effort of concealment” –Alfred Adler-
There is a Russian proverb that says, Men carry their superiority inside, animals outside.
Gils has wisely said, “Esteem cannot be where there is no confidence; and there can be no confidence where there is no respect.”
We, as individuals, have our own interests, requirements, qualities and priorities. We should learn to honor and respect them, only then will we be able to truly love and respect ourselves. The best way to honor yourself is to accept who you are, where you are and what you are. If you cannot respect yourself who else can? No one else can accept you better than you can. Seeking acceptance from others will not only be a futile exercise, it will also take its toll on you, and it will drain you of your energies and limit your choices. It is more satisfying to be a beautiful flowering bush than to be an ugly tree.
According to Rochefoucauld, “Esteem has more ongoing charm than friendship and even love – it captivates hearts better, and never makes ingrates.
Imagine a situation where you are making a public speech. You are essentially reading out a written text prepared by someone else and do not have any clear idea of what you are talking of, or reading about to your audience, and now the audience wants to discuss your talk with you. What will be your reaction be? You will try to evade all questions, because you will feel threatened by them and you will want to cut every one short. You do this because you do not want to let your audience know that you were not prepared for this talk. On the other hand, had you prepared your own text, were sure of what you were saying, and had enough knowledge of your subject you would welcome all discussion on your talk and enjoy it too. Confidence is necessary to open your mind. It is only when we are in tune with our inner self that we can open up to the world of learning and improving.
“When you trust yourself, you discover your truth. When you honor that truth, you can see your authentic path. Following your authentic path will lead you to the vision of prosperity that ultimately will engage your mind, ignite your heart and cause your soul to sing.” –Cherie Carter-
When you accept yourself the world accept you.
A swollen head is like being obese; it shows how sick you are.
Oftentimes nothing profits more than self-esteem, grounded on what is just and right. –Milton-
We are all born unique; no two individuals are alike. Honoring and respecting this esteem is how we look at ourselves, how comfortable we are within. It is our self-concept, our personal perception in our mind’s inner eye. It is the grading we give ourselves; it is the confidence we have in our abilities; it is our opinion of self and our individuality. How comfortable we are with ourselves has a direct bearing on our performance in every area of our lives.
Having high self-esteem is not only desirable but also necessary for achieving success and being happy. No one can feel successful and happy unless he has a healthy respect for self, and no one can achieve meaningful success unless he has confidence in his capabilities. If we do not have high self-esteem we will not be able to respect our work and ourselves.
“Behind everyone who behaves as if he were superior to others, we can suspect a feeling of inferiority, which calls for a very special effort of concealment” –Alfred Adler-
There is a Russian proverb that says, Men carry their superiority inside, animals outside.
Gils has wisely said, “Esteem cannot be where there is no confidence; and there can be no confidence where there is no respect.”
We, as individuals, have our own interests, requirements, qualities and priorities. We should learn to honor and respect them, only then will we be able to truly love and respect ourselves. The best way to honor yourself is to accept who you are, where you are and what you are. If you cannot respect yourself who else can? No one else can accept you better than you can. Seeking acceptance from others will not only be a futile exercise, it will also take its toll on you, and it will drain you of your energies and limit your choices. It is more satisfying to be a beautiful flowering bush than to be an ugly tree.
According to Rochefoucauld, “Esteem has more ongoing charm than friendship and even love – it captivates hearts better, and never makes ingrates.
Imagine a situation where you are making a public speech. You are essentially reading out a written text prepared by someone else and do not have any clear idea of what you are talking of, or reading about to your audience, and now the audience wants to discuss your talk with you. What will be your reaction be? You will try to evade all questions, because you will feel threatened by them and you will want to cut every one short. You do this because you do not want to let your audience know that you were not prepared for this talk. On the other hand, had you prepared your own text, were sure of what you were saying, and had enough knowledge of your subject you would welcome all discussion on your talk and enjoy it too. Confidence is necessary to open your mind. It is only when we are in tune with our inner self that we can open up to the world of learning and improving.
“When you trust yourself, you discover your truth. When you honor that truth, you can see your authentic path. Following your authentic path will lead you to the vision of prosperity that ultimately will engage your mind, ignite your heart and cause your soul to sing.” –Cherie Carter-
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